I DID IT! Although gasping was involved, I swam a lap of freestyle today! Actually I swam a few! What power in the sense of accomplishment. I couldn’t have been happier. There may not be limits to my swimming career! Lol!
Well it took me a lifetime to figure that out. My Mom lives her life thinking that people are obligated to do what she wants. I have lived mine hoping that people will do what I want. We both get the same results because people are going to do what they want generally and not what someone else wants. So finally I get it. If I need something done, I need to figure out a way to do it. If I can’t do it, I need to pay to get it done or barter the service. If along the way someone volunteers to do it, I’m ahead. This is not lowering my expectations of others, rather I see it as raising the bar for me. It will make me work out solutions rather than hope that someone will do it for me. You’d be surprised what you can accomplish if you put a heavy dose of brain cells to it!
As you all know I blog about my love of knitting and crochet at knitteddreamscrocheteddesires.com. This evening at our regular Wednesday gathering of the Bergen Crafters, someone said that a man watched her knit at the laundromat and said ” I haven’t seen anyone do that in years. People around here have better things to do”. Well I thought about that and decided that you may have better things to do but not many that are so satisfying and mind calming. When I am a bit on edge I find knitting/crocheting very soothing and when I finish I have something that some one can use or wear.
Relax I’m not recruiting we have tons of crafter’s out there. What I am suggesting though is that you pick up that hobby and give it another try. You don’t have to spend a lot, start with an inexpensive project. Satisfaction has no dollar amount attached. So buy some crayons, paints, yarn or fabric and get to working. I bet you will feel a real sense of accomplishment when you finish. So okay it’s not the vacation that you wanted or the new car but just for a short time you can enjoy yourself. Try it and see!
So let me tell you what I call the crazy train and some of you may remember being on board. I didn’t give much thought to the this concept when I was working 9:00 to 5:00, Monday through Friday. Once that was no longer the case I found myself occasionally jumping on the train that says whatever I accomplished in any given day wasn’t enough. Those under/unemployed may understand. Jobs tend to define ones accomplishment or rather substitute for accomplishment. You could have a junky house, unpaid bills, unruly kids and a bunch of other things but you could always say at the end of the week, “well I worked all week”. When that is stripped away the crazy train pulls in and tells you that you are a lazy lump because you didn’t go to the office today. Well I’m here to tell you if that train pulls into your station let it go. The sane train is probably right behind it.
You took care of your little ones, did laundry, tended your home garden, was a caregiver for a family member, did your home profession all while in your pajamas? Well it counts and you accomplished as much as you could in one day.
Today I cooked and cleaned up after two meals, put drops in my Mom’s eyes (three times so far) after her recent eye surgery, paid bills, graded student work online and listened to a self-development tape and the day ain’t over yet. So you can imagine my surprise when the crazy train tried to pull into my station. Anyway I got a grip let it pull out of the station and if it heads your way I suggest that you do the same thing.
As my friend Jack Jack says HAPPY MONDAY 🙂